A friend of mine recently sent me a gift – a book, called The 5 Love Languages.
I was kind of suspicious about the book to be honest – especially while looking at the front cover. At a glance, it appeared to be some sort of quick love book that didn’t have much content.
But, I was surprised to realize the insight I gained from it.
And this is what I came to understand: While I am a firm believer that the only person who can get you unSTUCK is yourself, it doesn’t negate considering how you can consciously choose to speak the primary love language of your partner.
The author suggests that each of us have a primary love language:
- words of affirmation
- acts of service
- receiving gifts
- quality time or
- physical touch
Each of us have a preferred way for people in our lives to express their love to us.
I knew what my primary love language is (words of affirmation) even before taking the quiz at the end of the book.
And while I asked my husband if he wouldn’t mind taking the quiz, I already knew his primary love language (acts of service).
So, what can we do with this information, especially if we are speaking different languages?
And how does it relate to getting unSTUCK?
In essence, it just helps to bring more clarity to our relationships.
When we get stuck, our situation is clouded and we cannot see reality or any other perspective other than our own. We get hijacked by our emotions and we stay deeply attached to our way of thinking.
This tool (the 5 Love Languages) is a way to bring more clarity to a stuck situation. It can provide you a “consideration” you would have otherwise not been able to see for yourself. Furthermore, if you can learn to “speak” your partner’s language (even though it may not come naturally to you), you may even be able to prevent unfortunate situations in the future.
Do you know what your primary love language is?
How can knowing yours and other’s enhance and build your relationships – whether they are in the home, at work, or in the community?