Not STUCK at My Party

IMG_20170311_230538We had a party on Saturday night.

Long story short, it was a party intended for our entire community, but only a handful of people showed up.

At the end of the night, my husband asked me if I was disappointed – and I immediately responded, “No! I had an awesome time!”

That was the truth.

But here’s the thing: I was disappointed, I just didn’t get stuck in it.

Throughout the night, if I’m being honest with myself, I did have thoughts such as:

  • Is anyone going to show up?
  • This person said she was going to come and she’s not here!
  • What is everyone thinking about this situation?
  • People in my community must not like me.
  • I should send another message to remind people.

But, here’s the thing.

I was so aware of my thoughts.

So aware.

And each time I noticed a belief arising in my mind, I questioned it and in realizing how limiting each belief was, I directly went to consider another perspective:

  • It doesn’t matter how many people show up.
  • I can have fun no matter how many people are here.
  • It was a very busy weekend with lots of other celebrations going on.
  • People are tired.
  • People don’t always have to come to every party that is happening in the community.
  • It’s out of your control at this moment anyway.
  • You don’t need to take things personally.
  • I have this moment, and this moment only. What are you going to choose to do with it, Shira?

And what did I do?

I danced.

I smiled.

I laughed.

I sang.

And I had a great time with those who did show up.

One thing for sure, I didn’t get stuck, even though that would have been the easy thing to do.

Has anything like this ever happen to you?

4 Responses to Not STUCK at My Party

  1. Rotem March 15, 2017 at 11:57 am #

    Shira,
    I love you and I had SUCH A GREAT (!!!) Night dancing with you.
    I thank God that helped us meet and that you are my friend.

    • shirataylorgura March 15, 2017 at 12:07 pm #

      Rotem, I am SO glad you showed up, SO glad you danced with me, and SO glad to have celebrated with you the entire weekend!

  2. Hortense March 16, 2017 at 1:10 pm #

    Kol hakavod! Great example & very helpful! Good for you!