We had a party on Saturday night.
Long story short, it was a party intended for our entire community, but only a handful of people showed up.
At the end of the night, my husband asked me if I was disappointed – and I immediately responded, “No! I had an awesome time!”
That was the truth.
But here’s the thing: I was disappointed, I just didn’t get stuck in it.
Throughout the night, if I’m being honest with myself, I did have thoughts such as:
- Is anyone going to show up?
- This person said she was going to come and she’s not here!
- What is everyone thinking about this situation?
- People in my community must not like me.
- I should send another message to remind people.
But, here’s the thing.
I was so aware of my thoughts.
And each time I noticed a belief arising in my mind, I questioned it and in realizing how limiting each belief was, I directly went to consider another perspective:
- It doesn’t matter how many people show up.
- I can have fun no matter how many people are here.
- It was a very busy weekend with lots of other celebrations going on.
- People are tired.
- People don’t always have to come to every party that is happening in the community.
- It’s out of your control at this moment anyway.
- You don’t need to take things personally.
- I have this moment, and this moment only. What are you going to choose to do with it, Shira?
And what did I do?
And I had a great time with those who did show up.
One thing for sure, I didn’t get stuck, even though that would have been the easy thing to do.
Has anything like this ever happen to you?