While on my book tour this summer, a common question that arose during the Q&A time periods was: How quickly can you actually process through The S.T.U.C.K. Method?
People were asking this thoughtful question after I took my time in each workshop to explain in depth each step of the method.
They were curious how this technique could be used in a quick enough fashion to prevent unfortunate eruptions from occurring.
And this morning, while offering a Getting unSTUCK class at an event outside of Jerusalem, I offered the following example to support it.
This morning, I got stuck.
I had a bad night’s sleep.
Actually, to be honest, I hardly had any sleep, as I’m still getting over jetlag and my body still thinks it’s in New Jersey.
So, I woke up a bit cranky.
And when my husband turned to me at 6 AM after only having gotten about 1.5 hours of sleep and greeted me with, “Good morning,” I responded with complaints – about my bad night’s sleep, about the neighbor’s crying baby, and that I should have done better yesterday (Shabbat) to force myself to wake up on time and help get my body back on schedule rather than what I did, which was sleep in.
But, I caught myself in that stuck place.
Stuck on frustration. Stuck on annoyance. Stuck on irritation. Stuck on disappointment.
So, I closed my eyes and took a breath.
And in that second, I went through steps “T”, “U”, “C” and “K” – so that by the time I opened my eyes again, I replied to my husband in an entirely different tone and attitude:
“Good morning!” I said with a smile.
“Good week!” I said genuinely.
“Good month!” I said with excitement.
“I am grateful!” I said with sincerity.
And within one second, I turned a nagging wife into a happy and gracious one.
Literally, within the blink of an eye.
And so can you.