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Redirect your attention away from the “stuck” situation and attend fully to something in the present moment. Consider noticing your breath as an example of a stop.


Tell yourself what emotion(s) you feel. Say, “I am stuck on …”  (For example, “I am stuck on anger.”) Note where you feel this in your body. Where, what, how does it feel like?


Uncover the beliefs that support your emotion(s) and check the accuracy of each of them. Ask yourself, “Is this 100% accurate?”


Stretch your “consideration muscles” and consider other perspectives to your story.


Have compassion for yourself for getting stuck in the first place.

All psychological and spiritual growth involves not just freedom for our self, but freedom from our self — freedom from the automatic thoughts and behaviors toward which we’ve become largely unconscious, and which limit our joy and fulfillment in life.  Shira Taylor Gura’s methods are wise, gentle reminders on how to become more conscious, sane, and loving in an increasingly demanding world.”  Larry Dossey, MD, Author:  ONE MIND:  How Our Individual Mind Is Part of a Greater Consciousness and Why It Matters.

Shira Taylor Gura knows how to get unstuck. Through dozens of everyday examples—from domestic irritations to the fear of political violence—she describes, step by step, how to free ourselves from reactivity and the limits of false beliefs. Her self-deprecating humor is winning; her practical clarity is incisive; her core of compassion is inspiring. As Gura both demonstrates and embodies, getting unstuck not only restores us to our truest selves, it opens the door to peace in ourselves and in our communities.”
Frank Rogers, Professor of Spiritual Formation and Narrative Pedagogy & Co-Director of the Center for Engaged Compassion at the Claremont School of Theology; Author of Practicing Compassion.

“With down-to-earth examples from her own life, Shira Taylor Gura presents a very practical tool to release us from the reflex-reactions we often regret.”
David Richo, You Are Not What You Think, 2015 

We can all recognize ourselves in the revealing stories Shira Taylor Gura tells about getting stuck in the everyday events of life. This intimate sharing inspires the reader to try out The S.T.U.C.K. Method for their own liberation.”
–Rabbi Jeff Roth, Director of The Awakened Heart Project  
“The Stoics of Ancient Greece cautioned us to check in with our emotions and consider whether each of our emotional reactions is serving us or has the potential to harm us (or others). In the 1950s and 1960s, psychiatrist Aaron Beck and clinical psychologist Albert Ellis introduced new types of talk therapies that clinicians may employ with clients, cognitive therapies, in which the connection between thoughts and emotions is explored and thoughts are modified to enhance mental health. Today we can engage in such self-examination without a therapist. Shira Taylor Gura presents a simple, step-by-step, and easy-to-remember process through which we may notice and gain control of our emotions, thereby enhancing our well-being. Several other do-it-yourself cognitive therapy systems exist, but Ms. Gura’s is particularly simple to implement and memorable. Try her approach once and I think you will be S.T.U.C.K. on it.”
Gretchen M. Reevy, PhD, editor of The Praeger Handbook on Stress and Coping and author of Encyclopedia of Emotion.