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Redirect your attention away from the “stuck” situation and attend fully to something in the present moment. Consider noticing your breath as an example of a stop.


Tell yourself what emotion(s) you feel. Say, “I am stuck on …”  (For example, “I am stuck on anger.”) Note where you feel this in your body. Where, what, how does it feel like?


Uncover the beliefs that support your emotion(s) and check the accuracy of each of them. Ask yourself, “Is this 100% accurate?”


Stretch your “consideration muscles” and consider other perspectives to your story.


Have compassion for yourself for getting stuck in the first place.

All psychological and spiritual growth involves not just freedom for our self, but freedom from our self — freedom from the automatic thoughts and behaviors toward which we’ve become largely unconscious, and which limit our joy and fulfillment in life.  Shira Taylor Gura’s methods are wise, gentle reminders on how to become more conscious, sane, and loving in an increasingly demanding world.”  Larry Dossey, MD, Author:  ONE MIND:  How Our Individual Mind Is Part of a Greater Consciousness and Why It Matters.

Shira Taylor Gura knows how to get unstuck. Through dozens of everyday examples—from domestic irritations to the fear of political violence—she describes, step by step, how to free ourselves from reactivity and the limits of false beliefs. Her self-deprecating humor is winning; her practical clarity is incisive; her core of compassion is inspiring. As Gura both demonstrates and embodies, getting unstuck not only restores us to our truest selves, it opens the door to peace in ourselves and in our communities.”
Frank Rogers, Professor of Spiritual Formation and Narrative Pedagogy & Co-Director of the Center for Engaged Compassion at the Claremont School of Theology; Author of Practicing Compassion.

“With down-to-earth examples from her own life, Shira Taylor Gura presents a very practical tool to release us from the reflex-reactions we often regret.”
David Richo, You Are Not What You Think, 2015 

We can all recognize ourselves in the revealing stories Shira Taylor Gura tells about getting stuck in the everyday events of life. This intimate sharing inspires the reader to try out The S.T.U.C.K. Method for their own liberation.”
–Rabbi Jeff Roth, Director of The Awakened Heart Project  
“Shira Taylor Gura presents a simple, step-by-step, and easy-to-remember process through which we may notice and gain control of our emotions, thereby enhancing our well-being. Several other do-it-yourself cognitive therapy systems exist, but Ms. Gura’s is particularly simple to implement and memorable. Try her approach once and I think you will be S.T.U.C.K. on it.”
Gretchen M. Reevy, PhD, editor of The Praeger Handbook on Stress and Coping and author of Encyclopedia of Emotion.  
“The S.T.U.C.K. Method is wise, skillful, and practical. Most importantly, though, it offers the possibility of real change.” Carla Naumburg, PhD, author of Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family
“The S.T.U.C.K. Method is a wonderful, practical guide to utilizing mindfulness and emotional awareness to unstick yourself from destructive emotional patterns and live from a place of greater freedom and openness.” Dr. Rabbi James Jacobson-Maisels, founder of Or HaLev: A Center for Jewish Spirituality and Meditation
“This practical, easy-to-use guide will help you understand the feelings and beliefs underlying your stuck emotional reactions, while offering mindfulness tools to enable more effective communication.” – Israela Meyerstein, LCSW-C, LCMFT, Author, Bridge to Healing; Finding Strength to Cope with Illness